I like straight talk. Simple communication. I don’t see a lot of it unless you count the monosyllabic grunt given me by the unconcerned, bored doofus handing me my cup of coffee after my handing him $4.00. (Just kidding. I would never pay $4.00 for a cup of coffee.) Setting good grammar aside (which is…Details
Does this really surprise you? At this point in your life do you actually still believe that people are telling you the truth? Please! Business writers and success gurus are not telling you the truth about what it really takes to be successful. They don’t care whether you are successful or not. They want to sell books and will say what it takes to do it–even when what they are saying makes no sense at all.
Just because a guy can write a bestseller about business doesn’t mean he really knows about business. It just means a lot of copies of the book were sold. It says more about the buyers than it does about the writer. Remember, Jersey Shores and Housewives of ‘Who Give’s A Crap’ are still some of the most watched television shows on the planet. That doesn’t mean it’s quality programming, it just means a lot of people watch the show.
I’m a professional speaker and have written 5 national bestsellers myself. I am a member of the Speaker Hall of Fame. I am hired by some of the largest, most respected companies in the world to rant on stage about business and personal success. I attend huge conventions of national associations and do my stuff. I personally know many of the most successful speakers and writers in the country, and I also currently read about one business book every week – all the top sellers. So I actually have some expertise is this area. I know what’s being said and I know what people are buying.
Know what? Those business writers and speakers are selling you a big ol’ bucket of doo-doo. Yep, they are lying to you. I like most of these guys – many are good friends of mine. But I also know the truth about most of them. Very few of them actually do what they are telling you to do. They talk the talk, but they don’t walk the walk.Details
From a London newspaper: Today we mourn the passing of a beloved old friend, Common Sense, who has been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was, since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape. He will be remembered as having cultivated such valuable lessons…Details
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The Wheel That Doesn’t Squeak
Most people do the right thing. Most people work. Most people pay their bills. Most people do a pretty good job of raising their kids. Most folks are fairly kind and charitable and do the best they can with the information they have. As tough as I am on people, I believe that folks are basically good somewhere down deep in their hearts. They may do stupid things from time to time, but they are good folks at a core level. At least I hope so.
But there are no headlines for these folks. The headlines and the news stories go to the few, not the many. The attention goes to the few who make the most noise, the squeaky wheels of society. The squeaky wheel gets the grease and the grease is attention. And sadly attention only makes the wheel squeak louder and seems to create even more squeaky wheels.
Every group from the NRA to the Tea Party Movement to the women’s groups and gay and lesbian associations, churches, most professional associations and organizations, from animal rights to civil rights – right down to both the Republican and Democratic parties. All have extremist faction that steal the attention from the people in the middle that the organization was intended to represent. Every group.
Every business has policies that punish the many because of the stupid actions of the few. Very few people write bad checks or return stuff after it’s been used and on and on but businesses write policies that will effect the 97% in a negative way simply because the 3% is stupid.Details
Do we need more JOB stimulus or do we need more WORKER stimulus? (Or should I say NON-WORKER stimulus?)
I know there are 15M people out of work – but do they all have to be? There are hundreds of thousands of jobs available TODAY that can’t be filled. Why not? It seems to me that people are just too lazy to do the work. In fact, why should they work? Where is the incentive? We have extended unemployment benefits to the point that some people find it easier NOT to work than to actually take a job.
I just watched a Fox News report about a woman who had just stopped looking for work. When they asked her why she had stopped, she said, “Because there is nothing out there.” I call bullshit on that one. There just isn’t anything out there that suits this woman’s vision of herself. Get a clue Sweetheart, you aren’t too good to do anything that brings in a paycheck. Get over yourself.
I had a guy write me this week on my Facebook fan page (http://www.larrywinget.com/facebook.html) saying he had stopped looking for work as well. His comment was “ I am worth more than $10 an hour.” Really? If you are an able-bodied person sitting on your butt watching television and drawing unemployment or any other government assistance when there is a job you could take and yet you don’t take it, I will agree, you are not worth $10 an hour – you aren’t worth ANYTHING!!!! You are a loser! A lazy good for nothing loser.Details
I recently posted a blog called The Ten Signs You Are A Bad Parent. Some overly sensitive folks, perhaps those with a bit of a guilty conscience, attacked my ideas with a vengeance! Some of you pointed out how you let your kid have a television in their bedroom and the kid still got straight A’s at school. Good for you! Some argued you often don’t know where your kid is and don’t need to because you have a great kid you can completely trust. Good for you again! Some of you even argued that it wasn’t necessary to be the kind of person you wanted your child to become. Seriously? Okay then, good for you one more time!
Do what you want to do and let your kid do exactly as they please. Go ahead and roll the dice with your child’s future. If that is your stance on responsible parenting, then get after it. Let’s see how that works out for you when your 25 year old wants to move back into their old bedroom because they can’t make it in the real world. When your kid can’t get through your front door because they are wider than the doorframe. When your little princess can’t pay her bills because she never learned how to be responsible enough to even show up to work on time. When your teen is charged as a sex offender for sexting, or shows up pregnant or with an STD. Or when they excitedly call and brag that they are about to be on a reality television show! Won’t you be proud then? When those or any number of other things happen, maybe then you will look at my list and think again about good parenting and bad parenting.
Before any of you blow a gasket, all of those things can still happen regardless of what you’ve done. I get it. I covered that whole concept in Your Kids Are Your Own Fault: A Guide For Raising Responsible, Productive Adults. I know that sometimes, you can do everything right and it all still goes wrong. Not often, but sometimes. So don’t write me and say, “yeah but . . . “ I get it. Move along. And for those of you who have written me saying I wish I had taken a stance with my kid earlier because now they are teenagers and I can’t get back in control. I get that too. I wish you had as well. But it’s not too late. You can still re-establish communications and make things better. Maybe not perfect again, but better. And for all who have told me how my ideas have helped them with their kids, thank you especially!
Now on to my real point!Details
There are many signs that parents aren’t doing a good job as parents. All you have to do is look around at the millions of people living out the results of their own bad parenting to know that. Take a moment and look at these ten signs and evaluate how you are doing: Ten Signs…Details
Seems like such as easy question to answer. The average, normal person would quickly say “my kids,” or “my family” or “being healthy” and so on. I bet those answers are about what you came up with when you first read the question too.
It’s just that I’m not buying those answers. I’m not calling anyone a liar who recites those quick and easy answers, it’s just that I don’t buy that’s what is really important to most people. Why would I say that? Because their isn’t too much proof to suggest those answers are the truth.
One of my basic philosophies is that your time, your energy and your money go to what is important to you. So if kids and family and being healthy was as important as most people say, it would follow that is where people would focus their time, energy and money. Follow? Well, it isn’t happening. Look around and you’ll see that people are clearly not putting their actions into the important things in life. People are putting their time, energy and money into lots of things but more often than not, it’s the temporary, the mundane, and the instantly gratifying. The ridiculous occupies people’s time, saps their energy and seduces the money from their fingers. And the media helps with that fascination. But I don’t blame the media because they only give us what we beg to see. It’s not their fault they are capitalizing on our preoccupation with the stupid; it’s our own. Watching stupid stuff on television is voluntary participation. No one forces you to sit there and see who the newest stupid celebrity is and what he/she is doing. You choose to do that. People choose to participate in things of no importance and neglect what is really important. I dealt in great detail about this problem in my book, The Idiot Factor: The Ten Ways We Sabotage Our Life, Money and Business (formerly titled People Are Idiots and I Can Prove It.)
Are there exceptions? Of course there are so don’t get all fired up and write me a bunch of comments about how wrong I am and how my premise doesn’t apply to you. Fine. You may be the exception. Read this and be satisfied with how none of this applies to you and find some satisfaction in pointing the finger of blame at everyone else.
“I get it, Larry. So what is important?”Details
I have been remiss in writing a good rant for a few weeks especially when so much has happened for me to rant about! I guess it is because that I have just been so overwhelmed with the disrespect, lack of civility and stupidity that is running rampant that I couldn’t focus on just one or two issues. And I still can’t! So I‘ve decided that you folks might be willing to put up with a series of short rants on all of the things that I am finding especially irritating in the news and in life these days. I hope you enjoy, if you want to share any of these, feel free but give credit and send folks over to the blog and to my fanpage on facebook. This little rant is obviously called, “It’s a damn shame……………….”
It’s a damn shame when someone writes on my Facebook page defending irresponsible behavior with the words “Personal responsibility is such a cliché. It’s a condescending over-used phrase that has become the stock answer to everything.” Yes! It is the answer to everything! And it’s a damn shame that people would rather do anything in this world than take responsibility for their actions, including dismissing the notion as cliché and condescending.
It’s a damn shame when all of us can’t be happy when one of us has something good happen. Obama gets the Nobel Peace Prize and it suddenly becomes a battle cry of the right wing about how he doesn’t deserve it. If your name isn’t Nobel or you aren’t on the committee then you don’t really have a say in his deservingness. Don’t say he didn’t earn it – it’s not up to you to decide that. The Nobel Peace Prize committee decided he was deserving so you don’t really get a say in who wins the award since you don’t sit on the committee. This is not about politics or whether you like Obama’s stance on … well, anything! It’s about the President of the United States gets recognized on the world stage for something good and our divisive political system can’t say “congratulations” and then move on to better things. Which means it’s a damn shame when important things like healthcare, the recession, Medicare, Social Security and other major issues are taking a backseat to this inane non-issue.Details
The Lazy Man’s Theory Of Relativity.
I want to make it clear from the start that this rant was inspired by Troy Sammons. He wrote me on Facebook with his comments that I have included below. It was so good that I suggested to him that he write more and put it out there somewhere but he said for me to run with it if I wanted to. So I am going to add a bit to what was already a great email he sent me, but I want to say thanks to Troy upfront for his inspiration.
From Troy: “It is my observation that there is a growing epidemic of excuses that I call the “Lazy Man’s Theory of Relativity.” Americans seem to continually measure their position or situation in relative terms that makes their lazy lifestyles appear more successful. Let me give a few examples: I am relatively thin compared to that fat guy; I’m relatively rich compared to that broke ass over there; I work relatively hard compared to the narcoleptic janitor; I’m a relatively great parent compared to that woman wearing the muumuu feeding her kid Twinkies for lunch; or the worst one—we are relatively free compared to people in other countries.
What has happened that has enabled us to give up on our ideals and settle for relative success or perfection? Why are we always on the search for that loser whose life sucks more than ours so we can remind ourselves how good we are doing. I can’t stand it when someone makes relative comparisons to make the current situation appear less painful or pathetic.”Details